Mommy Tales and Tools

The Benefits of Preschool.

Are you on the fence about sending your little one to preschool? Some parents would rather have their child stay home with them for extra bonding before they start grade school. Others, can’t wait for them to get a head start on their education. Here are my thoughts!


I sent both of my kids to preschool. My middle child is currently in his second year of preschool. We started him a year early so that he could have some socialization and so that he felt like he had a place to go just like big brother!

The first year was amazing for him to learn how to act around other kids. The second year is where all of the things he was taught last year, are finally clicking and I’m really seeing him blossom. He is begininning to write, too!

I decided preschool was important for my son to attend because I had my second son and he was quite a handful. It was difficult for me to give my oldest my undivided attention and I could tell it effected him. He was jealous and distracted. The times I COULD sit down and teach him, he would just want to play with me. That’s when I figured that sending him somewhere for a few hours a day would be fun, educational and it would give him some time away from the baby brother.

For my oldest, preschool was important because I was able to see some behavioral issues during that time, and have an experienced preschool teacher work with me and guide me through this time. She was awesome in so many ways and really understood how each child is different and there is no cookie cutter way of teaching or handling their emotions. I’m glad I learned this before Kinder because, Man, I was in for a tough adjustment. My son got into some trouble, had a detention, a meeting with the principle, and even had a Google Doc dedicated to his daily behavior. Now these are things I was able to start working on in preschool, thankfully. I understood he would have difficulty adjusting to a new school and a longer school day. But he was prepared the year before with a routine to wake up early every morning, get dressed, be responsible with his book bag every week, and have to do what was expected of him in class.

As a first grader now, he’s an awesome student. He loves his teachers and loves helping them any chance he gets. He’s confident in class and on the playground. I owe a lot to his preschool teacher. When you find a good one, they can really work wonders in your child’s life.  He’s reading at a second grade level only 3 months into the year!


My middle son will finish his last year with his preschool teacher in 6 months. He’s excited to start at the big school with his big brother, and he’s pretty thrilled for the bigger playground, too!

As for me, I know he will be prepared and excited for school. Preschool is a great way to acclimate your kids to school.


No matter what you choose, give your little one a big hug and kiss every chance you get. They grow up too fast and you don’t want to miss out on a single snuggle before they’re pushing you away!


XOXO Patty

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Why I Shop Black Friday.


For the last few years I’ve gone out at the wee hours of the night to be around the buzz of Black Friday Shopping. Up until last year, I never actually bought anything because I didn’t know what I was looking for so nothing ever really seemed like a “deal”. I thought the only thing that really mattered was a T.V. because you would hear everyone talking about how they got one last year or plan to get one this year and you always see people with their carts brimming with that huge T.V. they just purchased on Black Friday.  Well, I didn’t need one of those. So, I would go home empty handed and wondering what the appeal of this  day was.


Now, last year was different. I decided we were going to go out on Black Friday and get our Christmas shopping finished for our kids while we had money and while we had time. Normally, we are still shopping on Christmas Eve with an ill equipped budget and stuck in the last minute shopper traffic all day just trying to get whatever is left.

Anyways, so last year I went out to the outlets and to Target. I was able to find awesome deals on warm beanies and mittens for each of my children and a cute long sleeve top from Carter’s for a decent price. The Clearance was an additional % off. At Target I found them board games that were 50% marked down and a fun age appropriate toy for each that I knew they would enjoy. We spent under $200 for all 3 kids and had so many toys for them to open on Christmas. It was awesome! We picked up a gift for our parents and teachers, something small but thoughtful… And my shopping was done!


Do you know how much more enjoyable the holidays are when you know you have all your gifts already?? For the first time since becoming an adult, I finally felt like I could breath for the holidays and take it all in for what it’s meant to be. Family, faith, love, joy.


So, even if I could still get those deals closer to Christmas, I wouldn’t wait. Because I think getting it taken care of and out of the way before the real crazy-of-the-season happens is well worth staying up a little later and walking off that Turkey dinner.


What are you looking for this year during Black Friday? When do you prefer to shop?


XOXO Patty

Mommy Tales and Tools

Daily Stay at home mom schedule

Here is what a day in my life looks like. I have a 2 year old, 4 year old, and a 2 month old. All Boys. This is not a guarantee that my day will run smoothly, but my kids respond better to being active and knowing what’s ahead, so here it is:


7:30am Wake up, get dressed

8am Breakfast

8:15am Take B to preschool

8:30am Grab my coffee and head home

9am Time with Brad, Take a walk or just snuggle together. Whatever Bradley wants to do with me, this is his special time

11am  snack, then pick up B from preschool

12pm Lunch then toy cleanup/chores

1pm Quiet Time/Nap (Except my kids don’t nap.Ever.) I try to get in some cleaning at this time then catch up on some tv

3pm Snack, Outside time like park or walk, or a movie if it’s too much for that day

4:30pm Music time and dancing while I make dinner

5:30pm Eat dinner

6pm Family time with daddy

7pm Bath time/ water play

7:30pm jammies, brush teeth

8pm Read stories in bed

8:30pm Bedtime

8:30pm-10pm Time for Hubby and Me 🙂 A moment of peace!


That’s basically the gist of it all. I am trying to do 2 organized activities a day and also work on adding in alone time with my oldest because he rarely gets time away from his younger brothers. He has suggested a walk around the block at night so I might add that in sometime after dinner.

What do your days look like? And if you have 3 kids or more, how the heck do you keep them all busy and engaged? I’d love to hear!





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Balancing Act

My life is one giant balancing act. Spreading myself between my husband, my 4 year old, 2 year old, 2 month old, 2 dogs, and a messy house. Wait….I forgot to add myself in there…….Sound familiar?


Sometimes I just need a break from it all. I am spread very thin as a stay at home mom. Making sure everyone and everything has their needs met so they can enjoy a happy and fulfilling life. I always feel super accomplished when everyone was able to have my attention for the day, but I also feel very burnt out at the end of everyday. I haven’t really been able to figure out where to find women to socialize with. And quite frankly, I don’t want to join a mommy group, because I want to be able to have a civilized convo with the ladies without having sporadic outbursts at my kids mid sentence. How do you go about finding ladies to chat with and go out for coffee with when you are a stay at home mom?? Million dollar question right there.


Tonight was so bad, I actually had to “check out” mentally for an hour (as I write this, of course)! But us mommas do what we have to do to still feel normal. I can’t offer any advice on how to have a life right now, because it is a work in progress for me still, but I will share my journey with you all along the way. There is strength in numbers and I feel like there is nothing better than women learning together and through each other. We aren’t always perfect but we are kickin ass and taking names in the game of MOTHERHOOD. 😉


Back to balancing…Make sure that each member in your family gets one on one time with you, ESPECIALLY yourself. You can’t give when all has been taken. Refill your cup every single day. Take a bath, zone out, read a book, exercise. Do something for you, even if it’s just using the bathroom with the door closed and locked. You deserve it!


Have tips on balancing family, husband, and yourself?? Comment below!