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The Benefits of Preschool.

Are you on the fence about sending your little one to preschool? Some parents would rather have their child stay home with them for extra bonding before they start grade school. Others, can’t wait for them to get a head start on their education. Here are my thoughts!

 

I sent both of my kids to preschool. My middle child is currently in his second year of preschool. We started him a year early so that he could have some socialization and so that he felt like he had a place to go just like big brother!

The first year was amazing for him to learn how to act around other kids. The second year is where all of the things he was taught last year, are finally clicking and I’m really seeing him blossom. He is begininning to write, too!

I decided preschool was important for my son to attend because I had my second son and he was quite a handful. It was difficult for me to give my oldest my undivided attention and I could tell it effected him. He was jealous and distracted. The times I COULD sit down and teach him, he would just want to play with me. That’s when I figured that sending him somewhere for a few hours a day would be fun, educational and it would give him some time away from the baby brother.

For my oldest, preschool was important because I was able to see some behavioral issues during that time, and have an experienced preschool teacher work with me and guide me through this time. She was awesome in so many ways and really understood how each child is different and there is no cookie cutter way of teaching or handling their emotions. I’m glad I learned this before Kinder because, Man, I was in for a tough adjustment. My son got into some trouble, had a detention, a meeting with the principle, and even had a Google Doc dedicated to his daily behavior. Now these are things I was able to start working on in preschool, thankfully. I understood he would have difficulty adjusting to a new school and a longer school day. But he was prepared the year before with a routine to wake up early every morning, get dressed, be responsible with his book bag every week, and have to do what was expected of him in class.

As a first grader now, he’s an awesome student. He loves his teachers and loves helping them any chance he gets. He’s confident in class and on the playground. I owe a lot to his preschool teacher. When you find a good one, they can really work wonders in your child’s life.  He’s reading at a second grade level only 3 months into the year!

 

My middle son will finish his last year with his preschool teacher in 6 months. He’s excited to start at the big school with his big brother, and he’s pretty thrilled for the bigger playground, too!

As for me, I know he will be prepared and excited for school. Preschool is a great way to acclimate your kids to school.

 

No matter what you choose, give your little one a big hug and kiss every chance you get. They grow up too fast and you don’t want to miss out on a single snuggle before they’re pushing you away!

 

XOXO Patty

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Daily Stay at home mom schedule

Here is what a day in my life looks like. I have a 2 year old, 4 year old, and a 2 month old. All Boys. This is not a guarantee that my day will run smoothly, but my kids respond better to being active and knowing what’s ahead, so here it is:

 

7:30am Wake up, get dressed

8am Breakfast

8:15am Take B to preschool

8:30am Grab my coffee and head home

9am Time with Brad, Take a walk or just snuggle together. Whatever Bradley wants to do with me, this is his special time

11am  snack, then pick up B from preschool

12pm Lunch then toy cleanup/chores

1pm Quiet Time/Nap (Except my kids don’t nap.Ever.) I try to get in some cleaning at this time then catch up on some tv

3pm Snack, Outside time like park or walk, or a movie if it’s too much for that day

4:30pm Music time and dancing while I make dinner

5:30pm Eat dinner

6pm Family time with daddy

7pm Bath time/ water play

7:30pm jammies, brush teeth

8pm Read stories in bed

8:30pm Bedtime

8:30pm-10pm Time for Hubby and Me 🙂 A moment of peace!

 

That’s basically the gist of it all. I am trying to do 2 organized activities a day and also work on adding in alone time with my oldest because he rarely gets time away from his younger brothers. He has suggested a walk around the block at night so I might add that in sometime after dinner.

What do your days look like? And if you have 3 kids or more, how the heck do you keep them all busy and engaged? I’d love to hear!

 

-WonderMommy

 

 

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Park time

Everyday I make it a point to take the kids to the playground. If that’s all I can do with the kids for the day, I’m okay with it because at least they got out of the house and had a time to be social with other kids. They get their exercise in and I get some fresh air which makes me feel more balanced. Sometimes we go to Barnes and noble when I’m not up for chasing them at the park, but honestly they are getting to the point where I have to chase them around in their and it becomes stressful making sure they don’t make a mess with the books and displays. So playgrounds are my go to out and about activity.

My kids each like to pick a special toy they bring to play with, everyday my tot brings his basketball and pretends to shoot it at the hoop and my 4 year old brings whatever he’s interested in that day. If you are a stay at home mom and you don’t go to the playground everyday, I’m interested in hearing how you keep your little ones busy during the day.

 

I’ve been trying to be “unplugged” for most of the day and limit my children’s tv/computer time, and I notice a real difference in their Attitudes and mine too! But that’s another post I’ll write soon.

Please comment with busy body activities you do with your child to burn off energy, I’d love some new ideas!

 

Peace and love,

God bless,

Wonder mommy

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Becoming A Stay At Home Mom

Deciding to become a stay at home mom was difficult for me. I knew I wanted to start my own business from home, but I also thought it would be a struggle to be at home knowing that it would take awhile for my business to be put together and to a point where I was making money. I felt as though I was not contributing very much both as a mom and as a wife. For the first 4 months of being a homemaker I just layed in bed mostly and watched Netflix, waiting for my husband to get home, which would be the highlight of my day…as well as my kids’ day. It became depressing and I knew something had to change. It was challenging for me to get motivated to do anything because quite frankly I had no idea where to start. But as I did some research and figured out how I would ideally like to spend my time at home, I made a list and forced myself to accomplish as much as possible so that I felt I had a purpose to my day.

I have created a list of how I came to love being a stay at home mommy and how I fought the ‘”at home blues”. I hope you can get some ideas and motivation so you too can love the blessing of being able to stay home and raise your kids! Here’s what I did first: I created a list of my priorties, for myself as well as my kids. I wanted to be a better wife and mom. I wanted to have the house decently clean and I wanted my kids to get out of the house and do something besides watch t.v. all day. I also needed some sort of acitivty for myself, a hobby. As a mom and wife it’s easy to forget about yourself and I had. If someone were to ask me what I liked to do….well…I would have nothing! That’s sad and untrue, but I couldn’t answer becasue I had forgotten and not had a chance to do what I liked to do anyway. So create a list of what areas you want to work on in your life or how you would like to fill your days.

1) Home. I wanted to have a clean home, I just feel better and less stressed when my surroundings aren’t so cluttered. So I went on Pinterest and printed out a daily cleaning sheet. I didn’t follow it exactly but the things that were most important for me to have picked up I would force myself to clean everyday and then tackle a certain project or room such as scrub the window cill or clean the kids room. It was a struggle at first, but trust me after a couple weeks of pushing yourself, it truly beocmes a habit and you wake up automatically thinking of what to start cleaning. I would even clean after everyone was asleep and I could be by myself. Then I could wake up to a clean bathroom and one item already checked off my To-DO list.

2) Kids. Make sure you get out of the house every single day! I take my kids to the playground for at least an hour everyday. I found a park I really love and even though it’s an 8 minute drive to get there, I do it anyways because the kids can always depend on making at least one friend every time. Plus the little drive passes time 😉 My goal is to let the kids be out of the house as much as they and I can handle. Sometimes it’s the library or bookstore, other times a walk or bike ride, and on the weekends we do something as a family like go to the farmers market, flea market, Chuck E. Cheese, or visit cousins for a playdate. I hate being cooped up and i know my kids do too. I know it can be hard to motivate yourself to leave the house some days, especially with multiple children, but trust me, it’s worth it!

3) Wife. I wanted to be a better wife so I made it a point to make sure I send out a sweet text everyday and not get into any sort of arguement while texting because I’m borewd or having a bad day and feeling resentful. Face it, our hubbys work hard and are the sole provider in most cases of stay at home moms, they are working hard so we can be home with our kids and raise them ourselves. We need to show our appreciation, I know guys have a hard time realizing how much we do, but try taking the lead and showing your appreaciation for your hubby, and he will want to do the same for you….once in a blue moon! haha

4) ME!! Everyone knows that as moms we tend to focus on providing for our children day after day and hardly have time to think about our own needs. But this is the most important because if we are not taking care of ourselves and meeting our needs, we won’t be as present and joyous in life, it’s also easy to become resentful. I know that when I start nagging at my husband and starting little fights all day long that I’m not working on myself enough. Then I know it’s time to assess my goals again and get right back to what I WANT to do. I like to make sure I’m eating healthy, get in some exercise ( usually yoga, my life saver), read a book, go out on the weekend, or ask my husband for 30mins- 1 hour for “me time” after dinner. It totally helps! I also like to get a mani pedi once in a while and make sure I put on makeup and dress cute for at least 4 out of 7 days of the week. Rest assured it’s typically pjs or yoga pants the rest of the week, I love comfort! Take care of yourself, you will feel 100% better with your outlook on life, and your family will appreaciate seeing you happy too!

I’m still working on how to keep the kids busy at home so that will have to be in my next post, keep a look out for it. Be the best mom you can be, don’t let people get you down because you don’t pay someone else to do what you can do better for your children. It’s a lot of work but worth it once you get into a routine. Good luck.

How do you moms deal with staying at home? Do you fill your day with activities or do you find yourself trying to get the day to end ASAP? Let me know in the comments!!

-WonderMommy