Why are so many moms sitting at home right now finding someone on a blog to connect to….like this one? I get it, I was a lonely mom. I tried mom groups, park play dates, friending other moms online, friend apps. I’ve even tried reconnecting with old friends that are not parents. Unfortunately, I have nothing in common with them anymore. They don’t understand the troubles we go through or the simple fact that going out to a club on a Friday night seems like work and not a good time after the thought of getting dressed up, walking around past bedtime, and being away from your cozy bed and the Investagtion Discovery channel.
Well, sometimes a social life can be hard. Especially in the beginning of it all. I’m still getting used to marriage and sharing all of my things. And I’m still getting used to 3 kids that seem to have an infinite amount of energy and feelings. I’ve come to accept my lack of social life, because it’s not important to me to have friends just because society says “this is the amount of friends normal people have”. I’m not normal and I don’t have a problem saying I have 3 friends. But I do think it’s important to have some people to have play dates with or grab a quick cup of coffee with in the morning.
So here’s what I did. There wasn’t a mom’s group or meetup in my city. The city over had one but they required you to attend a hosted meetup once a month, and c’mon, anything that kicks you out for not following rules is not my thing. So I created a social page on Facebook for my town for moms. It’s up to a good number of moms. We ask questions, we get together for coffee, I create a monthly list of events. Sometimes nobody comes, sometimes it’s a great turnout. Either way, it’s a starting point towards meeting and taking to local moms.
check your Facebook for a local group, and if it’s not there, create one yourself! You’d be surprised how quickly it grows! Then, you’ll need a list of ideas for play dates! Coming soon! 😉
Hang in there parents. Drop expectations of a social life and recreate your own. You don’t need to follow social norms after motherhood, you create your own.