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It Must Be Nice…

To all of you who judge mothers, especially stay at home moms, and tell us…”It must be nice…”, SCREW YOU!!!

 

Why?

It must be nice to have ZERO alone time?

It must be nice to wipe asses all day long?

It must be nice to have an empty bank account?

It must be nice that the highlight of my day is my morning trip to Starbucks which is the only money I spend on myself personally?

It must be nice to watch everyone around me get out of the house and socialize?

It must be nice to have to fix everything in the house by myself or be stuck with it forever broken, water squirting all over my bathroom every time I shower.

It must be nice to be the glue that holds everything and everyone together, even when you are almost empty?

 

It must be nice, isn’t it?

 

I love my family, but sometimes its so hard to hold it together. You feel lonely, and forgotten. You want to support your husband with his work and his personal life but can’t help but feel jealous when he goes out to breakfast and lunch without you, especislly when y ou are in serious need of a date. Or when he is too tired from work to help you when he gets home. All “motherly” tasks are left to you because you are better at it. No break, no help, no life.

 

That’s how I feel at this very moment.

 

That will change.

 

Because from now on, I will put myself first, so that I can be an even better wife and mother. I will go to mom groups, I will go to that MEETUP for 20/30 year olds, I will go to the gym and proudly frop my kids off for 90 minutes of freedom, I will travel 40 miles to see my friend in another city, I wil make myself a priority. Because I shouldn’t have to cry that nobody else does. That’s up to me.

 

Rant over.

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Daily Stay at home mom schedule

Here is what a day in my life looks like. I have a 2 year old, 4 year old, and a 2 month old. All Boys. This is not a guarantee that my day will run smoothly, but my kids respond better to being active and knowing what’s ahead, so here it is:

 

7:30am Wake up, get dressed

8am Breakfast

8:15am Take B to preschool

8:30am Grab my coffee and head home

9am Time with Brad, Take a walk or just snuggle together. Whatever Bradley wants to do with me, this is his special time

11am  snack, then pick up B from preschool

12pm Lunch then toy cleanup/chores

1pm Quiet Time/Nap (Except my kids don’t nap.Ever.) I try to get in some cleaning at this time then catch up on some tv

3pm Snack, Outside time like park or walk, or a movie if it’s too much for that day

4:30pm Music time and dancing while I make dinner

5:30pm Eat dinner

6pm Family time with daddy

7pm Bath time/ water play

7:30pm jammies, brush teeth

8pm Read stories in bed

8:30pm Bedtime

8:30pm-10pm Time for Hubby and Me 🙂 A moment of peace!

 

That’s basically the gist of it all. I am trying to do 2 organized activities a day and also work on adding in alone time with my oldest because he rarely gets time away from his younger brothers. He has suggested a walk around the block at night so I might add that in sometime after dinner.

What do your days look like? And if you have 3 kids or more, how the heck do you keep them all busy and engaged? I’d love to hear!

 

-WonderMommy

 

 

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Balancing Act

My life is one giant balancing act. Spreading myself between my husband, my 4 year old, 2 year old, 2 month old, 2 dogs, and a messy house. Wait….I forgot to add myself in there…….Sound familiar?

 

Sometimes I just need a break from it all. I am spread very thin as a stay at home mom. Making sure everyone and everything has their needs met so they can enjoy a happy and fulfilling life. I always feel super accomplished when everyone was able to have my attention for the day, but I also feel very burnt out at the end of everyday. I haven’t really been able to figure out where to find women to socialize with. And quite frankly, I don’t want to join a mommy group, because I want to be able to have a civilized convo with the ladies without having sporadic outbursts at my kids mid sentence. How do you go about finding ladies to chat with and go out for coffee with when you are a stay at home mom?? Million dollar question right there.

 

Tonight was so bad, I actually had to “check out” mentally for an hour (as I write this, of course)! But us mommas do what we have to do to still feel normal. I can’t offer any advice on how to have a life right now, because it is a work in progress for me still, but I will share my journey with you all along the way. There is strength in numbers and I feel like there is nothing better than women learning together and through each other. We aren’t always perfect but we are kickin ass and taking names in the game of MOTHERHOOD. 😉

 

Back to balancing…Make sure that each member in your family gets one on one time with you, ESPECIALLY yourself. You can’t give when all has been taken. Refill your cup every single day. Take a bath, zone out, read a book, exercise. Do something for you, even if it’s just using the bathroom with the door closed and locked. You deserve it!

 

Have tips on balancing family, husband, and yourself?? Comment below!

 

-WonderMommy