Deciding to become a stay at home mom was difficult for me. I knew I wanted to start my own business from home, but I also thought it would be a struggle to be at home knowing that it would take awhile for my business to be put together and to a point where I was making money. I felt as though I was not contributing very much both as a mom and as a wife. For the first 4 months of being a homemaker I just layed in bed mostly and watched Netflix, waiting for my husband to get home, which would be the highlight of my day…as well as my kids’ day. It became depressing and I knew something had to change. It was challenging for me to get motivated to do anything because quite frankly I had no idea where to start. But as I did some research and figured out how I would ideally like to spend my time at home, I made a list and forced myself to accomplish as much as possible so that I felt I had a purpose to my day.
I have created a list of how I came to love being a stay at home mommy and how I fought the ‘”at home blues”. I hope you can get some ideas and motivation so you too can love the blessing of being able to stay home and raise your kids! Here’s what I did first: I created a list of my priorties, for myself as well as my kids. I wanted to be a better wife and mom. I wanted to have the house decently clean and I wanted my kids to get out of the house and do something besides watch t.v. all day. I also needed some sort of acitivty for myself, a hobby. As a mom and wife it’s easy to forget about yourself and I had. If someone were to ask me what I liked to do….well…I would have nothing! That’s sad and untrue, but I couldn’t answer becasue I had forgotten and not had a chance to do what I liked to do anyway. So create a list of what areas you want to work on in your life or how you would like to fill your days.
1) Home. I wanted to have a clean home, I just feel better and less stressed when my surroundings aren’t so cluttered. So I went on Pinterest and printed out a daily cleaning sheet. I didn’t follow it exactly but the things that were most important for me to have picked up I would force myself to clean everyday and then tackle a certain project or room such as scrub the window cill or clean the kids room. It was a struggle at first, but trust me after a couple weeks of pushing yourself, it truly beocmes a habit and you wake up automatically thinking of what to start cleaning. I would even clean after everyone was asleep and I could be by myself. Then I could wake up to a clean bathroom and one item already checked off my To-DO list.
2) Kids. Make sure you get out of the house every single day! I take my kids to the playground for at least an hour everyday. I found a park I really love and even though it’s an 8 minute drive to get there, I do it anyways because the kids can always depend on making at least one friend every time. Plus the little drive passes time 😉 My goal is to let the kids be out of the house as much as they and I can handle. Sometimes it’s the library or bookstore, other times a walk or bike ride, and on the weekends we do something as a family like go to the farmers market, flea market, Chuck E. Cheese, or visit cousins for a playdate. I hate being cooped up and i know my kids do too. I know it can be hard to motivate yourself to leave the house some days, especially with multiple children, but trust me, it’s worth it!
3) Wife. I wanted to be a better wife so I made it a point to make sure I send out a sweet text everyday and not get into any sort of arguement while texting because I’m borewd or having a bad day and feeling resentful. Face it, our hubbys work hard and are the sole provider in most cases of stay at home moms, they are working hard so we can be home with our kids and raise them ourselves. We need to show our appreciation, I know guys have a hard time realizing how much we do, but try taking the lead and showing your appreaciation for your hubby, and he will want to do the same for you….once in a blue moon! haha
4) ME!! Everyone knows that as moms we tend to focus on providing for our children day after day and hardly have time to think about our own needs. But this is the most important because if we are not taking care of ourselves and meeting our needs, we won’t be as present and joyous in life, it’s also easy to become resentful. I know that when I start nagging at my husband and starting little fights all day long that I’m not working on myself enough. Then I know it’s time to assess my goals again and get right back to what I WANT to do. I like to make sure I’m eating healthy, get in some exercise ( usually yoga, my life saver), read a book, go out on the weekend, or ask my husband for 30mins- 1 hour for “me time” after dinner. It totally helps! I also like to get a mani pedi once in a while and make sure I put on makeup and dress cute for at least 4 out of 7 days of the week. Rest assured it’s typically pjs or yoga pants the rest of the week, I love comfort! Take care of yourself, you will feel 100% better with your outlook on life, and your family will appreaciate seeing you happy too!
I’m still working on how to keep the kids busy at home so that will have to be in my next post, keep a look out for it. Be the best mom you can be, don’t let people get you down because you don’t pay someone else to do what you can do better for your children. It’s a lot of work but worth it once you get into a routine. Good luck.
How do you moms deal with staying at home? Do you fill your day with activities or do you find yourself trying to get the day to end ASAP? Let me know in the comments!!